The player rules ....

Whats up with this guys being players thing ... can't a person just stay damn committed ...
I recently made a disturbing discovery ... actually its something i always knew in the back of my mind somewhere but just never wanted to believe ...
anyway, i just got told straight out how i was 'played' ... god dammit, how can the fool actually just volunteer information like that making me realise, or blatantly telling me atleast that he played me ... I felt like such a fool!!
Anyway, the rules went something like this :
- A guy has absolutely no reason not to reply your messages or return your phone calls, and if he doesnt by the time morning turns into afternoon or afternoon into evening etc, then something is wrong ...
- If he creates small fights with you, its because he wants you to disappear for a while so he can spend some time with girl 2 ...
- If he is genuinely interested in you he will do every little thing you want him to do ...

Now i hate knowing these rules, cos it makes me doubt and over-analyse every little thing potential new hooked up guy does, even though its so possible these little things mean absolutely nothing ... and im thinking ex player guy told me these rules purposely to make me doubtfull ... wot an ass!! Why oh why do i stay friends with these fools ... Food for thought: When a relationship is over, it's over!!! no being friends and feeling sorry for the fools at all ... thats it, make a clean break and never look back!!!

So speaking of clean breaks, i think im gonna delete ex player guys numbers from my phone and my life ... Liberte!!

Ciao
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Two lipsticks and a lover

One word describes this book: phenomenal ....
It starts off saying that all you need to be a french woman is two lipsticks and a lover ... after reading on I found you need much more than 2 lipsticks ... You need day creams, night creams, eye creams, body creams ... You need a cleanser to use when you have make-up on and a cleanser for when you dont have make-up on. And then you still need to tone and moisturise. If you go to bed wearing make-up, you could age six days in one night.... Now i'm a follower of the cleanse tone moisturise rule but no ways am i putting so many different creams on, its insane.

Apart from the above, i learnt some great stuff ...

1. French women dont like to exercise. They prefer using over the counter methods ... like cellulite creams etc. And shopping is their form of exercise ... Its true, if you shop a lot and try on lots of clothes, you get a full body workout ... I'm part french there already. Yay

2.French women love lingerie ... One lady in the book had 365 different pairs, for each day of the year ... insane if u ask me, but thats a french woman ... must go all out in every aspect of your life! The bra was invented by a french lady, Herminie Cadolle in 1889. Thank you Herminie for getting rid of the corset :)

3. Accessorising your outfit is very important ... You should always buy the most expensive bag and shoes and they will make up any outfit ... Ooh this is so nice for me, i'm a bag fanatic ... Infact a good bag is actually an investment ...Think i should invest in that Prada bag i always wanted ... *sigh* the prada bag of my dreams

4.In france, family mealtimes are sacred. "Eating together as a family is an essential part of growing up for children. How will they ever learn how to eat properly if we dont eat with them? And, what will it do for our relationship with them if we exclude them from our meals?"

5. French women dont know the rule about staying away from your best friends man ... In fact, in France it is taken for granted that your best friend WILL cheat with your husband ...So all women keep their friend and family lives seperate ... This is a scary thought ... A survey done on french women asking about having an affair on holiday produced a result of 2% against it ... 98 out of every 100 french women would have affairs ... Keep your partners away from France girls!!

6. For a french woman, its not enough to just be chic and beautiful ... one must be intelligent too ... Infact, the top 5 role models for a french woman are all elegant, beautiful women who made names for themselves more for their intelligence and contributions to literature and politics than their beauty and intrigue ...

All in all, i think a french woman epitomises everything all women should strive for (except the smoking 60 cigs a day and stealing your best friends husband) ... but the way they look after their bodies, and their minds ...

Pour la femme française en tout de nous
Au revoir

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The Hook-up

I have a new word for people that try to hook you up with their nephews, sons, etc ... Gonna call em 'hookers' ... Ok, i didn't come up with that one, actually my dad did ... lol!
So, anyway, my aunt has been organising this hook up for me with one of her friends sons for the past couple of months ... now she finally managed to get us both in the same place at the same time so she could let him see me ... I wasn't told about this apparent 'viewing' ... how unfair is that! Why wasn't I allowed to see him? (Thank god for my clever sister-in-law ... she had a good luck!) So this guy checks me out, decides that yeah i look cool so he'll give it a shot ... Then she tells me she gave him my number ... So, we had about 3 phone and a couple of sms conversations over the past 3 weeks ... Is that ok?? how often are u supposed to speak to someone you trying to get to know?? And how much effort should you, as the female party, put in?
I have no idea how this hooking up thing works ... the last few relationships of mine were 'hooked up' by me and the other persons ... no other involved parties whatsoever... But then, those ended so maybe these 'arranged' relationships work better ... I'm slowly beginning to understand the concept behind arranged marriage ...
Maybe taking things slowly is better than flying into a whirlwind romance where the couple is madly in love with each other after a week cos those end just as quickly ... But how slow can you take things, especially when 'the hooker' keeps calling to find out how things are going ... what must i even say cos i really dont know ... This pressure is too much for me to handle ...

Ciao
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Desperate Housewives

Oh my god ... what an episode tonight ... i cant believe that crazy woman shot Norah ... i actually started liking Norah abit ... I mean, its not like she stole Lynettes husband ... She didnt deserve to die ... but then TV wouldnt be so exciting hey!

So, i was asked if, when im married, I would kill my husband if he cheated on me ... and the answer is no ... I wouldnt go all psycho and hold a supermarket hostage but I would definitely get my revenge! Who knows ... maybe cheat on him too, they say theres nothing like a taste of your own medicine hey ... haha!!! It's scary though ... i had a dream about having an affair last night ... eerie stuff!!

But what other ways are there of revenge-taking??? Blackmail?? Divorce?? Something to think about ... Gonna sleep on that :)

Good Night

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Random Thoughts ...

Imagination was given to us
to compensate for what we aren't...


&


A sense of humour was provided
to console us for what we are ...

21 grams ...

Remember the movie 21 grams ... In the beginning, I think, the guy says "They say we all lose 21 grams at the exact moment of our death ... everyone. The weight of a stack of nickels. The weight of a chocolate bar. The weight of a hummingbird..."

I had this conversation with my cousin the other day when she told me she saw something very interesting about this on discovery channel some time back ... Apparently they did research into how much a soul weighs ... now this has been in my mind for quite a while so i decided to do a little bit of my own research tonight!

A doctor Duncan MacDougall did this research in 1906 and found the soul to weigh about three-fourths of an ounce ... How true is this? Do our souls actually weigh something? And surely, if they have weight they must be having some chemical composition? But anyway, this doctor says he proved the existense of the soul ... The Quraan has spoken of this over a thousand years ago ... But you know scientists ... for them 'seeing is believing' ...

Has anyone done any research into this topic in today's times, 100 years after Dr MacDougall? Surely with the technology available today they could come up with some conclusive scientific evidence... not that we need evidence, but it is very interesting !!

Ciao
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Appreciation ...

ap·pre·ci·a·tion [uh-pree-shee-ey-shuhn]
–noun
1. gratitude; thankful recognition: They showed their appreciation by giving him a gold watch.
2. the act of estimating the qualities of things and giving them their proper value.
3. clear perception or recognition, esp. of aesthetic quality: a course in art appreciation.
4. an increase or rise in the value of property, goods, etc.
5. critical notice; evaluation; opinion, as of a situation, person, etc.
6. a critique or written evaluation, esp. when favorable.

It's so true that just being appreciated makes you want to do more for people ... and yet, the more you do for people the less they appreciate you. Murphy's law i guess or what?!!

Take family for example ... You do the world for them .. look after their kids, cook for them when they ill, wait up for them when they coming home late ... the list is endless ... yet when ONE thing doesn't go their way, the first person they blow up at is you - yes you, not their spouse or their parents, you - the little sister that sits silent and takes the crap! ... why?!! What's a girl to do?
Is it because being overly nice all the time makes people take advantage of you?! what gives a person the right to be horrible to another person who's nothing but nice ... I think i need to stop this nice behaviour, and just do things that please me ... I'm not here to please the world, lifes's too short ...
Why cant good deeds cause good deeds in return like in the movie "pay it forward" .... everyone needs to learn a great lesson from that movie ... because the way i see it, if life carries on the way it is where being nice gets you kicked, the world is heading for worse disaster than it already is in ... Shucks!

Ciao
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Carpe Diem !!!

I received the e-mail below today and it really makes so much sense ... It goes with the whole idea of not worrying about the future and living in the present ... Enjoy !!

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.

I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.

How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word "refrigeration" mean nothing to you?

How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Desperate Housewives' on television?

I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, "How about going to lunch in a half hour?" She would gas up and stammer, "I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain." And my personal favourite: "It's Monday." She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.

Because Australians cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!

We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.

Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I'm going to," "I plan on," and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit."

When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.
My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream.It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.

Now...go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?

Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you.

Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, "We'll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"?

When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away.... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.

"Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!"

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The Beginning ...

Salaams, Hello to all ...

So ... let me start by saying a little about myself ...
I'm just a girl trying to discover herself ... This blog is for me to utilise my excess creative energy (apparently its not good to let energies go to waste)

I'm currently studying for my BCom honours specialising in finance and i know that i like what im studying, thank god!! (its a bit late to change now) ... Also i'm in the process of looking for a job ... i need to get out of the house ... my mind is becoming obsolete! I have a few personal (not professional) goals ... like look for happiness and inner contentment (and world peace yadda yadda) ... Firstly and mainly, i'm trying my best to be a better muslim, a better person and by doing this, i'm sure ill achieve my goals!

So anyway ... theres a saying that goes something to the effect of "you'll never know where you heading until you know where you've been" ... something like that ... i think it means that your past defines you, that past occurences are what make you what you are today ... personally i think that you shouldnt let past experiences rule your future ...
so my plan is to let go of the past, stop worrying about the future and live for today!!!

I hope i can keep up with this writing ... will try my best to post as often as possible!

Ciao
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